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October 22, 2021 3 min read

Although the candle market was never exactly struggling, today, they have become quite popular. It must have a lot to do with the massive boom in the self-care movement. Today, scented candles are a staple in meditation, relaxation, and more. 

However, many people actually use candles for more than just their scent and light. While premium candles are great for sleeping, there are ways to use them in the bedroom. 

One of the best-kept-not-so-secrets for sexual pleasure is wax play. It’s a form of temperature play practiced in BDSM. It involves the consensual and careful dripping of hot candle wax on another person to generate pleasure through pain. 

Now, at first, all those words strung together might be intimidating. But, wouldn’t you agree that the best sexual experiences happen when you play with the unexpected? Candle wax is another element that can enhance your senses and set you on fire—leaving you burning with desire. Of course, you won’t literally get set on fire—if you do it right.

If you’re curious but still wary, maybe knowing how to prepare will help you feel more confident in the world of wax play. Here’s how you can prepare for wax play:

Open Up the Topic and Do Your Research

First and foremost, you should know that wax play is not strictly limited to people with one or more partners. Solo wax play is not exactly recommended for beginners, but with time and practice, there’s no reason why you can’t enjoy it alone. 

Start the conversation if you already have a person or people with whom you would like to do it. They won’t know what you think if you don’t voice it out yourself. Wax play can be highly intense and arousing. 

On its own, wax play is not just a sexual act. It’s also an enjoyable way to explore your creativity and essentially paint each other’s bodies. 

Do Your Research

Do not go into this activity blind as it can result in some nasty consequences, like welts and burns. Everyone will be safe, happy, and satisfied as long as you’re all on the same page. There are tons of content out there that can help prepare. The community is generally very supportive and generous when it comes to sharing information.

Make sure to walk before you run when it comes to this particular activity. While wax play is a pretty safe activity, it still has some risks. Part of your research will include how you should start and how you can keep your partner safe.


They say that practice makes perfect, right? In this case, exploring on your own or together with someone is just as intimate whether you’re fully clothed or butt naked. Wax play can make you feel sudden stings followed by immediate cool. Depending on what you and your partner want, it can be a game, art, or something else. 

Take the time to explore your body's limits and test out how you feel about the wax before moving on to using it in the bedroom. As a bonus, you can probably count on all the practice to build tension. The more you explore wax play, the more intense the outcome can be.


If you have been experiencing a dry spell in your life, it might be time to look outward and explore your options. There are many other ways to get intimate and satisfy your body outside what you already know. Wax play is just one of the many uses of premium candles. The best kind can do more than just smell great. It canmake you feel greattoo!

Stay tuned for the second part of this blog series on wax play. 

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